Learning That an Adolescent Child Is Gay or Lesbian, Outline Example

Introduction: Understanding the Sexuality of Your Child

• Many parents fail to consider that their child could potentially fall within the LGBT spectrum when they are a young child
• It is important for parents to understand all of the possibilities so that they can be more accepting of their child’s lifestyle when they reach sexual maturity
• There is no way to be certain of a child’s future sexual preference, and parents should not attempt to prevent their children from doing anything or dressing a certain way in    order to prevent it
• For example, just because a male child decides to play with a Barbie doll does not mean that he will be gay when he grows up

Coping with this Information

• Many different individuals have difficulty coping with learning the fact that their son or daughter classifies themselves as gay, lesbian, or bisexual
• Several steps can be taken to ensure that the information is handled properly, continuing a strong familial relationship
• Parents should always listen to their children if they are coming out to them, and make an effort to provide them with a supportive environment
• Parents should never attempt to change their child or scorn at them for this
• Parents should do their best to be welcoming to their child’s partner if the introduction is made

Negative Consequences for Failing to Accept

• Parents who do not support their children’s lifestyle may be depressed and have higher likelihood of committing suicide
• Parents run a risk for having the child cut them out of their lives so that they can feel more comfortable being who they are
• Subjecting LGBT children to religious professionals “to change” has been shown to be ineffective and will contribute to senses of depression and anxiety

Conclusion and Summary Statement

• Parents should respect the lifestyle choices of their children
• It is important for parents to treat their children with caring and support